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1:10 am
March 9, 2009
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music52
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I'm thinking about transferring my parent (mom) into a long term care facility, but the guilt surrounding our conversations are strong. She is adamant about staying at home and she's attempting to make me feel like I'm abandoning her when I mention the option of moving her. What do you do?… Does anyone else have some opinions and experiences dealing with this?
Thanks!
m.
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11:58 am
March 10, 2009
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m.,
Your scenerio is all too familiar. Many people are faced with similar situations. Sometimes the most difficult aspect of moving a loved one into an assisted living facility is the guilt that you feel. You must, however, weigh the risk vs reward of moving your mom. Is she safe at home? Do you know that she would benefit from the care and socialization at an assisted living facility? Initially the move may be difficult, both for you and your mother; you will need to look at the big picture and understand that with time, her situation may improve substantially. It takes a couple of weeks or even months for most residents to be comfortable with their new environment and way of living. You may also find that your relationship with your mom is less strained and you can spend more quality time with her enjoying life rather than worrying about her health and safety.
Hope that helps and Good Luck!
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Hi,
I am not in the position that I have to think about moving my parents into an assisted living home but if I had to I would take a great deal of time walking around the homes that we were considering and talking with any and all staff that I could. It's a very hard decision and not necessarily a fun one but something that must be considered for some people and maybe considered before it's too late… meaning a decision has to be made quickly rather than slowly and thoughtfully.
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3:13 pm
March 11, 2009
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music52
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Thanks Trish and Louisa for your time to respond… I gained comfort from your words!
-m. 
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10:35 am
August 14, 2009
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Phil
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I would recommend Comforcare. They are the best caregivers in the North Carolina area. They offer http://www.homecarecharlottenc.com/“>charlotte home care, http://www.homecarecharlottenc.com/“>charlotte senior care and many such services. You can visit their website for additional details. I am sure they will be of immense help. Kudos!
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12:40 pm
September 3, 2009
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Thanks Phil for your participation and advice. 
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12:34 pm
September 16, 2009
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Jackie
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You also have the possibility of having live-in care. Medical professionals can be sent to your house to take care of your mother, for however many hours needed. Homecare Assistance is a great live-in care facility. They have franchises all over the country. Please check them out: http://www.homecareassistance.com.
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Jackie
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11:06 am
September 17, 2009
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You are right, Jackie! The exciting news is that there are three wonderful home health care agencies right here in Durango, CO. Alpine Home Health, Mercy Home Health, and San Juan Basin Home Health are wonderful options for those seeking assistance at home.
Home health care is a great option for those who need a little oversight and services, yet are able to remain in the home. Assisted living facilities also work closely with home health care agencies to provide additional care. It is a wonderful, cohesive relationship that benefits the resident tremendously!
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10:19 am
October 16, 2011
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ennaz
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music52 said:
I'm thinking about transferring my parent (mom) into a long term care facility, but the guilt surrounding our conversations are strong. She is adamant about staying at home and she's attempting to make me feel like I'm abandoning her when I mention the option of moving her. What do you do?… Does anyone else have some opinions and experiences dealing with this?
Thanks!
m.
Hi M,
this happens to anyone who are driven by guilt of moving their families. Dont feel that way especially if you have acceptable reason why you are oblige to do that. when my 58-year-old dad needed long term care services and we could no longer accomodate his needs, we decided to move him to an assisted living facility. Dont feel sorry if you know you hope the best for your loved one
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12:59 am
October 27, 2011
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robmejia
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Post edited 2:30 am – October 28, 2011 by robmejia
Leaving your parents in a nursing facility is such a heartbreaking thing to do. However, doing so is for their own good. Talk to your parent and make her understand that abandoning her is the last thing on your mind, but you just want the best health care for her, that you cannot provide at home.
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10:18 pm
November 4, 2011
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It's really difficult for an elderly to move to a facility. However, you can make it much easier for your mom if you take things one step of a time with her. I mean you give her an assurance that you are not abandoning her but you're simply giving her the best care possible. Make her feel that it's a sign of love and not abandonment. Words aren't enough so make sure that you visit her as much as possible, bond with her and don't make her feel that things have changed between the two of you.
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